A year from dad’s perspective.

Yesterday was Antosia’s first birthday. If I were to describe it using three words only, I’d have to use “happiness” three times, even though there were hard times…

The beginning was tough mainly because of doubts. During a few first weeks, no one could tell us what is wrong with Antosia and how can it develop in the future. When we were told it is “just” fibular hemimelia and hand deformity, it really calmed us down. Quickly, we rejected questions such us: what happened? why us? Basically there were none. In retrospect I know that we managed to go on through that period only because we supported each other and closest friends did not leave us alone neither on the hospital hall nor at home.

After Antosia left the hospital we tried to go back to daily routine and make it work with visits to specialists all around Poland. Slowly, we started to accept that our daughter will move around on prosthetics or a wheelchair. We think that with a bit of effort, this is not a disability (I wrote about it here). However, all the time we felt that we have to seek other solutions, as there is so much progress in medicine everyday. Then we managed to meet dr Paley in Munich.

fot. miastoknur贸w.pl

People say that when a child is born, parents’ life is turned upside down. For us, it has turned after that meeting. Being aware that Antosia will be able to run on her own feet, we knew that we have to do anything to make it happen. For a while, we did not have time, and Antosia suffered from it a bit, but grandma and grandpa bravely helped us. We feel we are on the right way…

Summing it up a little, my bond with Antosia, opposite to mom’s, started just after birth. Before, it did not really hit me. What does not mean that I wasn’t happy and was not amazed when Antosia kicked mom in the belly :-). I just fell in love with her when I saw her. And from that moment I love her more everyday. Even when she frolics and is unbearable, and sometimes it happens 馃槈 It is wonderful to see a child progress and learn new things. It is wonderful to watch her being sincerely happy because of tiniest nothings. It is wonderful to be back everyday from work, and see wonderful wife and Antosia with stretched arms. Antosia brought so much happiness to our lives, that I am not able to describe it with any words.

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8 comments on “A year from dad’s perspective.
  1. Carolciaaa says:

    dziecko to zawsze najwi臋ksze szcz臋艣cie i skarb w 偶yciu:)

  2. oj tak, taki ma艂y skarb potrafi tyle zdzia艂a膰:0 wiem cos o tym z do艣wiadczenia takiego jak i wy tylko miesi膮c starszego :):)
    Jeszcze raz Sto lat dla Antosi i oby nied艂ugo stan臋艂a na w艂asnych n贸偶kach!!!!!

  3. Amy says:

    pi臋knie napisane!! sto latek Antosiu!! masz wspania艂ych rodzic贸w razem dacie rad臋!!!

  4. Joanna says:

    Przepieknie napisane ! Az sie lezka zakrecila ! zycze wam oraz Antosi z calego serducha aby wszystko sie udalo !! Pozdrawiamy !

  5. ONA says:

    Czy mama Antosi jest w ci膮偶y? Je艣li tak to gratulujemy 馃槈

  6. Ola says:

    Tak si臋 wzruszy艂am tym co napisa艂e艣, ze a偶 艂zy polecia艂y jedn膮 za drug膮, trzecia za czwart膮… Radku Twoja c贸reczka ma ogromne szcz臋艣cie mie膰 takich rodzic贸w i niech wam B贸g b艂ogos艂awi, ca艂ej czw贸reczce 馃檪

  7. mama Amelki says:

    Pi臋kne s艂owa! Nasze do艣wiadczenia s膮 podobne i Wasza postawa jesg dla mnie motywacj膮 i nadziej膮 zarazem na lepsze jutro. Oby wiara nigdy Was nie opu艣ci艂a.

  8. M says:

    Jestem pod wra偶eniem Waszej determinacji i jak Knur贸w zaanga偶owa艂 si臋 w pomoc Malutkiej. Czytaj膮c ten tekst rozp艂aka艂am si臋 na dobre… 呕ycz臋 powodzenia, du偶o si艂y, jeste艣cie niesamowici. Ca艂uski dla Antosii.

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